This weekend I was feeling a little down so Saturday I decided to visit the mall and treat myself. I saw a couple of former students and chatted with them, but for the most part, I was alone with my thoughts for the next few hours.
I concluded with a bite at the food court. As I was walking toward the exit, you all would never believe who was coming straight toward me! Ethan! Ethan who is now 15 and in the 10th grade! It was a surreal moment though I don’t know why.
A couple of days prior my aunt’s husband told me that he saw the kids at the license branch with my former SIL. From that I concluded that she finally received custody and the fact that she made it a point to tell him that they now lived with HER . He also said that Evan kept asking to come over to their house. My aunt called me later and told me she believed that was his way of getting to see me since he would not be allowed to do so outright.
Also, Eliza had written me over the summer seeking my help in contacting their aunt regarding guardianship (because her sister no longer wanted the responsibility). And as small as our “big” city is, I knew I would be bound to run into them sooner or later if this did happen.
I gave Ethan a hug and a kiss and inquired about Evan. It was an awkward moment. We both wanted to say more but not in front an audience and only talked for a few minutes because his uncle (my SIL’s husband) looked uncomfortable. Though he has tried to stay neutral in the situation; I suppose he still has to defer to his wife. I could see he knew that she would not be happy about our reunion. But Ethan seemed pleased to see me. I just wish Evan would have been with him.
Last night I dreamed about the kids. Today I am still processing seeing him again after almost two years. Next Monday marks the second anniversary of his father’s death. I am still being haunted by the ugliness of it all.
I feel like my enemies have won again. My SIL has the boys and has been arguing via FB with Eliza’s sister (she is the one who took them from me) regarding their social security checks! Sadly they both only want the boys for the money they come with.
I mentioned that Eliza wrote early in the summer. Here are the 3 of the 4 letters she sent after initially asking for my help in locating my husband’s sister:
How are you? Have you heard anything from Shawn or her mom? I’m still waiting to hear something from them. I appreciate your immediate response- thank you. I have filed paperwork so I pray I receive a response from one of them soon. Be Blessed
I pray all is well with you. I’m doing well by the grace of God. Morocco I really need your help. I need for you to mail me copies of anything you have regarding Evan’s condition. I need it as soon as you can get it to me. I’ll be home in a few months and I’ve been trying to get things ready ahead of time with family counseling. I would greatly appreciate this. I know you stayed on top of things and I will forever be grateful for the care you provided our boys. They ask me if I talk to you. Maybe if you are up to it we can get together when I get home after I get things together. Well I’ll let you go, have a blessed day.
Thank you so much I really appreciate it. I will contact you soon so that we can set something up. I talk to the boys but I don’t get to see them regularly. I know they are going to be excited to see you. I think it would be good for them. God has a way of working things out doesn’t He:)? I’ll close for now but I’ll be in touch.
Be Blessed M
Of course after meeting all of her requests, including contacting his sister and sending her over 250 pieces of paperwork detailing Evan’s condition, I have not heard from her. I suppose I should have expected this from the same person who orchestrated her children’s removal from my home, sent no type of condolences after my husband’s death, and who slandered me in prison and ended up getting into a fight with Jazmine’s mom over her comments.
She also never mentioned that she had a modification hearing on October 19th in an attempt to get an early release. I only found out because I received an email from the victim notification system. I believe she wanted to use the paperwork to bolster the chances of having her sentence reduced.
I’ve done all I can do for her, so I foresee no reason for Eliza to contact me ever again. She probably never intended to allow me to see her boys. That was just the dangling carrot to manipulate me into doing what she asked. Unfortunately that shows that she still does not get it. I did those things for her because that’s just the kind of person that I am.
And I do believe she is right about one thing, God does have a way of working things out. He already knew of her ill intentions and arranged for me to run into Ethan. I do believe I’ll being seeing Evan next!
So glad you got to see Ethan. The boys will one day be 18. That day is not long off. Then no one will be able to stop them.
I’m a firm believer in Karma. Fighting over those boys just to steal their money is just plain wrong and I’m sure that life will teach them that lesson.
You are right, soon they will be able to make decisions for themselves without interference from Eliza and her crazy clan or my husband’s twisted sister.
I agree with Amy glad to see that you got to see Ethan. Life does have a way of working things out. It’s sad when you realize a person still dosen’t “get it” life can be so frustrating at times.
I think that is great you were able to see Ethan and that he still showed an interest in wanting to see you. I believe your right and that God is looking out for you. Hopefully as the boys get older they’ll continue to come back to see you on their own. Take Care!
I am so excited for you that you got to see Ethan!!!! You know, Morocco, my husband’s son was kept from him for six years and when he turned 17 he sought out my husband. I always told my husband I thought that would happen for him, and I think that will happen for you, too.
You were such a positive person in their lives at such a critical time, and that is something they won’t forget. I will hold out hope for you!
You know everybody says that I was a positive force in their lives; it just doesn’t feel that way. In my heart I feel as if that was the case, I’d still be in their lives. I guess I have to remember that they did not choose to leave on their own accord.
I don’t think it was an accident that you were both at the mall at the same time. I think it was God’s hand working in your life. I’m positive you will be seeing both boys again in the future.
I have to agree with what others have written. Soon the boys will grow up, and they clearly still have you in their hearts. I think about you sometimes and wonder how life is treating you now. I hope you are well.