I’ve been asked on a date by a guy who seems different from the Men @ Work (he’s single for starters). He has been very sensitive and understanding about my loss. He is a good conversationalist and has listened attentively for the last month to my deepseated, ardent lamentations. This has been a good outlet for me as I don’t like to constantly burden family and friends with my tales of woe. I don’t feel that he has a hidden agenda either. It has been close to six months and I am finally at the point in which I have accepted my husband’s death.
I do think an occassional, platonic dinner and a movie would be okay, but I don’t know! It could just be my loneliness talking. Maybe this step would help me enter back into the Land of the Living?
My stepfather is doing wonderful. I’m thankful as he’s had a rough couple of years. He also has a girlfriend! Although they haven’t been dating long, I was still touched when he asked me if I would be okay with their relationship. Intially I felt a twinge of jealousy because she is not my mother and sadness in that he even has to travel this route. However, these feeling were fleeting and I responded with a genuine “yes” and he seemed pleased. I want him to be happy!
I asked my sister what she thought about him dating and she replied, Good! Now he can stop calling me! He needs someone to keep him busy! Her response tickled me because I understood her seemingly aloof confession. Before she (his new girlfriend) came along he was very lonely! He called me what seemed like a million times a day to give me the run-down of his every activity! My husband used to tease me about this. Virtually everytime the phone rang it was…George! But unlike my sister who simply stopped answering his calls, I took every one because I knew that he was just missing my mother.
His girlfriend seems like a nice woman. She is also a widow. George took me and the kids out to breakfast last Sunday morning and she came along. She seemed a little nervous and shy so I tried to make her feel at ease by including her in the conversation and asking questions about her family.
I wonder what her title would be if they ever marry? Would she be our step-stepmom? Or just my stepfather’s wife? I wonder what she thinks about his “motley” crew of children and grandchildren? I know one thing, he is a package deal!