Calling All Pounds


This post might sound odd considering that most people want to lose and not gain weight.  I am on the other end of the spectrum!  I am not malnourished but any means, but I am petite.  I know genetics play a role in body mass, but some of it is environmental.  I am a notoriously picker eater and often opt out of eating if it is something that I do not like or find visually appealing.  Nor do I like my food to touch!  Also I have been dancing for twenty years which I believe has helped keep me thin.  I can fit sizes between 2-6 depending on the designer. 

Since my husband died I have been struggling to maintain a healthy appetite.  The first week I didn’t eat a single morsel, I only drank teas and juices.  After that I would eat maybe once a day if that.  I was still taking my two Hannah Montana gummy multivitamins but I was still extremely weak, inundated by headaches, irritable, and emotional.  Food was too hard to consume as it brought back a lot memories and I had no desire to do so.  I took no comfort any food because my husband was not there to break bread with me.  And eating was the least of my concerns.

I’ve lost between 10-15 pounds, and if you didn’t know me, you probably wouldn’t be able to tell.  I do not look emaciated, but I am a lot thinner than I used to be.  Lately I have a more conscious effort to eat because I don’t want to make myself sick (or look sick).

I would like to gain 20-30 pounds.  I like seeing fullness in my face and figure; I am 31 not 13!.  In an effort to get my weight back up, below are a few measures I have taken to do this! 

Log It:  I keep track of what I am eating in a small notebook.  This allows me to know how many daily calories I have.  I read that in order to gain a pound, one must consume roughly 3500 calories to gain a single pound and 2000 just to maintain your current weight.  Therefore I try to take in an extra 500 calories per day so that I may gain one pound per week. 

Top It Off: I add topping to foods to grab a few extra calories.  I’ll crown my yogurt with granola, ice-cream with carmel sauce, fries with shredded cheese, ect.

No Skipping:  This is so tempting for me because I don’t build a lot of time in the morning to eat breakfast.  But I try to keep a granola bar or a piece of fruit in my school bag so that I can have something in my stomach.

Small But Mighty:  It is intimidating seeing a lot of food on a plate, so lately I have been trying to eat six small meals a day.  Plus I do a lot of “grazing” in between. 

Keep Snacks in Your Shack:  Eat snacks in between meals.  I prefer healthy ones because they make you feel better over all.  You won’t have to worry about coming “down” from a sugar rush.  This snacks in between meals also provide extra calories.

Give Yourself a Boost–Literally: I drink Boost Plus for an added 360 calories.  Carnation Instant Breakfast is also a good, quick way to get extra calories.

Have It Your Way:  This is very important to do when you have a decreased appetite.  Recently I have sacrificed a well-balanced diet for the sake of food consumption.  I eat whatever I like, when I like.  Luckily for me I like fruits and vegetables!  Sometimes it’s okay to let your taste buds dictate the day.

Hold the Drink: I tend to get “full” from beverages so I combat this by waiting until I have finished eating before drinking.  I used to get the strangest looks at restaurants when I declined ordering a bevearge.  Simply put, the drink becomes my “food” and I am too full to eat.

If you guys have any other tips, I’d love to hear them!

11 responses »

  1. Morocco, these are great tips. My husband has the highest metabolism I have ever seen. I tease him that he burns calories while eating! He eats a lot of peanutbutter, drinks ensure, and tries to snack a lot in order to gain some weight.

    I, on the other hand have the opposite problem. Until I was about 37 I could eat anything I wanted, but hormones, peri-menopause, and the middle age spread have caught up with me. I am not overweight by any means, but I could prob lose 10 pounds or so. Although the good thing about being older is that I am a much pickier eater and I am so busy on a daily basis that I sometimes forget to eat.

    Good Luck with your quest. =)

  2. Stacy~

    My aunt always said that I would be wishing things were different once I turned 30, but I am still petite. She thinks I am crazy for wanting to gain weight and says that I have the ideal shape.

    When I was pregnant I gained 40 pounds which is the most weight I have ever gained. Strangers barely knew that I was expecting, but to my family I was an elephant! However, I lost it all a few weeks after I delivered.

    I wish I could have the pounds that you want to lose!

  3. Morocco…Have you seen your Dr.? They can maybe refer you to someone who is a specialist in the field. I have seen lots of protein powders at the local GNC’s that help with weight gain. I also eat several small meals a day, instead of the 3 meals a day. It helps me. I need to lose weight, not gain it. It is best to have a diet that is “special” for your health! Lots of times, without knowing it…we eat the wrong “combination” of foods, which makes things worse! Good Luck!

  4. Doraz~

    Actually I have. She said she wasn’t concerned because I am not malnourished, although it wouldn’t hurt for me to gain a few pounds. I didn’t want an appetite stimulant because I don’t like taking pills. I suppose I could see a dietitican and he/she could create a diet designed specifically for me. If I can’t gain in weight my way, I will resort to help from the medical experts.

  5. My oldest son is just like you M. He’s tried everything to “bulk” up. He’s that 90 weakling you see on the beach. He has never been able to gain and he’s 33. It’s just not his body type. My youngest son has the opposite problem. He can look at something and gain weight. We are all so different aren’t we?

    Good luck to you. It sounds like your plan is really a good one and you’ve got a great handle on it. Healthy is really the way to go. There’s also a lot of sugar in fruit. When my husband became a diabetic, it was the hardest for him to give up his beloved fruit but his dietitian says fruit is full of sugar and even though it’s “natural,” sugar to a diabetic is sugar.

    Eat happy.

  6. I use to suffer from the same ailment. I could stuff my face and not gain one iota of a pound. I too, use to try to gain weight, but to no avail. I finally reached a point where I accepted my fate. I ate what I wanted, when I wanted. My mother use to say, appreciate it while it lasts. Lo and behold,once I hit my early 40’s, my metabolism went into hibernation. It doesn’t want to come out. LOL. I now have to watch, what I eat because the pounds sneak up on me. I find this difficult because I have always had a healthy appetite. As long as you are not under nourished I wouldn’t worry about it. Try to eat more smaller portions throughout the day, that way you are still eating. Also, when persons suffer a loss, it is very common to drop some weight.

  7. Been There~

    I at least want to regain the pounds I lost when my husband died. I am okay with my weight, I just don’t want to be “too” thin. I believe that there is such a thing!

  8. I, too, am petite and have never had to worry about losing weight. When I was going through my divorce I also lost my appetite. I had a good friend who went to the store and bought food to stock my shelves so that I would eat. She even gave me specific instructions on what to eat each day. I appreciated her for that. It was hard for me to eat during those difficult days, but my appetite eventually returned.

    I think that as long as you are eating in a healthy way, you have nothing to worry about.

  9. Kweenmama~

    When I do eat, I eat healthy foods (for the most part), but my problem has been not eating at all or not enough. I know my appetite will return to normal eventually. However, in the meanwhile I can’t afford to lose pounds that I don’t have.

    I also appreciate the friends and family members who were cooking meals and providing me with restaurant gift cards so that if I decided I wanted to eat, not having anything readily available would not be an excuse.

  10. Hi Morocco ~ I will give you the 20 I want to lose LOL HAHA

    Good luck though, I think not skipping meals will help alot. But make sure you stay healthy.

    If all else fails, I’m still willing to trade 🙂

  11. Dear Morocco,

    Good luck with putting on weight. I wish you the best of luck because I know it’s as hard for you to gain as it is for some of us to lose. My mom’s friend was tiny as was my dad’s ex-wife. Both were no more than 100 pounds and were around 5’6″ to 5’8′. Marty (my mom’s friend) even tried milk shakes. However, she never seemed to gain.

    I have no advice at all. However, I do hope that you can regain a bit of what you lost. Grief is a hard diet to be on. It looks like you have a good plan. The only other thing to consider is high-calorie protein options (such as eat your apples and celery with peanut butter), have cheese on your sandwiches, include hummus with veggies. That way you get the good fats and proteins. Don’t forget about nuts. Good source of protein and high in calories. Maybe 2-3 handfuls a day to supplement your fruits and veggies.

    Again, good luck. I know all of us who read wish you nothing but the best in health and family.


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