Today I received a letter from Eliza. She wrote to inquire about the boys and to inform me that she is currently being held in segregation until the end of November. She did not say why. She only said “I’ve had a rough few weeks.”
Eliza asked that I not bring the boys to visit because she does not want them to see her in chains. Not to mention, the visit would only last one hour. She wrote that she would look forward to seeing me in December.
I am glad that she informed me, however, I was puzzled as to why she wrote Ethan telling him about being chained up in segregation, too. Now if she does not want him to physically see her in this manner, why provide a visual? Of course it would worry him. I’m sure he would want to know what it means to be segregated, why she is there in the first place, and if is she hurt, just to name a few things that would probably float in his mind.
We chose not to give him that letter. I am left to wonder if she is looking for sympathy from her son? I mean why tell him this? I can respect her reasons for declining visits at this point, but this was information that was not appropriate to share with her child.
Is she expecting me to reach out to her again in her time of need? I’ve tried that and look where it got me. I’m not sure if she wrote providing just enough to pique my curiousity so that I would write her asking about the incident and offering my support. Perhaps she was writing to diagnose the damage that she has done to our communication. Eliza tried to tread carefully by not revealing too much in case I am not empathetic to her plight.
Was she so upset by the letter from Evan’s therapist that she let her emotions (and mouth) get her into trouble? I mailed the letter off a few weeks ago. Eliza shouldn’t have been surprised by its contents because I have been making her aware of the severity of Evan’s PTSD stemming from the murder.
I knew that she would have trouble swallowing what was written. Eliza has never really believed what I was telling her about him. So maybe it was too much reality to handle seeing it spelled out in no uncertain terms by the therapist.
Wanting to avoid any more contempt accusations, I contacted the court clerk and explained the situation. I offered to mail a copy of the letter to place in our file. I have no idea if Eliza will recant her wishes. I don’t want to deal with her blaming us for missing two visits. Simply put, we can not trust her.
The clerk agreed and wondered if Eliza had already sent them a copy. I had to stifle my laughter! Did she send us a copy of the last letter? I also inquired about the potential court date. The clerk said with the letter from the therapist that she doubted very highly that the judge would even act on Eliza’s claim at all. She also mentioned that it appears that I have gone above and beyond the call of duty to keep Eliza abreast of Evan’s progress. What a relief!
But still, I am left to wonder, once again, what’s up with her?